Avoid These 3 Mistakes To Ensure a Successful Marriage

Regardless of our stature in life, we all have a few things in common. When we get married for the first time, none of us really know what we’re doing. There is no instruction manual even though building a successful marriage is one of the hardest things you’re ever going to have to do. There is no single method that will work for everyone since every relationship is different. You’ll have to understand that both of you will make mistakes. With all this in mind, there are certain things that married people shouldn’t do.

1. Don’t Be a Spy

Married people should never spy. Marriages without trust will fail, and spying is an indication of lack of trust. If you look for them, you can find faults in everyone. You may suspect that your partner is cheating. Do you think he goes to work too much? Some people think that their significant other is too secretive. Rather than resort to spying, it’s usually best to talk about these problems. Even if your fears are ungrounded, your marriage will never be the same again. You’ll strengthen your understanding with your spouse by communicating with them instead of destroying them by spying.

2. Keep Your Dirty Laundry To Yourself

Another subject that should be taboo between couples is negative remarks about your spouse’s family. Families are made up of very real people, and you need to expect that you will like some of them and not like others quite as much. Your spouse probably sees their problems but doesn’t want you mentioning it constantly. While it’s okay for the two of you to discuss specific behaviors of various family members, it’s not okay to spend time attacking the overall character of any individual. That will cause your spouse to side with you against his family or with his family against you.

3. The Grass is Never Greener

People also shouldn’t compare their spouse to other people. Never tell your wife that an ex-girlfriend had the world’s most gorgeous hair, because that will cause her to feel that she’s being compared unfavorably, even if the statement is true. Never rub it into your husband that if you’d gone ahead and married Joe, you’d be wealthy now. That will only cause your spouse to feel like a failure, and that’s not healthy for anyone. Doc No. psdlhsldh-tlshdkl

Kristie Brown writes on a variety of topics from health to technology. Check out her websites on how to save a marriage and stop divorce

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