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With divorce becoming so common these days, more and more couples are opting the easy way out when faced with marital troubles. The hope of saving your marriage looks bleak because almost everyone you know is getting a divorce. You need to seriously decide that once your marriage hit the skid, is divorce is the only way out? Will there be no turning back? You are afraid but one thing is for sure – you want to stop divorce!
Having the belief that you can save your marriage and bring it back from the brink of divorce is a start. You must take this opportunity to foster and build an even closer and richer relationship with your spouse.
Getting the right advice helps!
Since you are too close to your marriage problems, it is not advisable to rely on your own judgment to find a solution. Marriage problems are an emotionally charged issue that any person can easily overreact no matter how stable or logical you are. Hence, it is advisable to seek help from a neutral third party. The most obvious choice will be a marriage counselor. If you cannot afford a counselor or if you spouse refuses to see one, talking to someone at your church or seek advice from marriage self-help books can help.
You have not lost it, so where is the love?
You and spouse need to realize that no matter how much you hate each other or you argue persistently, there still is a basic concern and respect for each other. The reason you decide to marry your spouse is because there was some good amount of positive qualities in them. Sadly, couple focuses more on the negative traits of their spouse or the problems in the marriage that those good qualities are forgotten. Take a step back and remember all the good times you both had. There will be a good chance to revive the positive feelings you had for each other. Use those feelings as a platform for reconciliation.
Second chances do work!
You need to communicate with your spouse and convince them that too much time and effort has been invested in the marriage. Giving it all up now without taking a breather and agreeing to invest some time in working through the problems may be a decision both of you will regret later. You will be surprised that at times, that is all the marriage needs.
It is a misconception if you believe you cannot change things by yourself!
It is true that saving a marriage becomes easier if both partners agree to work things out and eventually give up the idea of a divorce. However, divorce can be averted even if you are the only person who is taking actions and steps to turn the marriage around while your spouse require a little more space and time to reconsider. This is because, in doing so, your approach and outlook towards your spouse and your marriage will change. You will naturally change your behavior. It is a positive start to improving your current marriage situation.
Before you decide that the only answer to your marriage problems is a divorce, take time alone to calm down and look at the realities. You have an excellence chance stop your divorce if you can get your spouse to agree to work out your marriage problems together. I want you to believe that by changing your behavior, you can still turn save your marriage, even if you are the only one who wants to stay together.
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