You will need to get your act together to help save your marriage from crumbling. You don’t want to sit by and watch a precious marriage fall apart, a marriage that had to be very important to you at one time or another. It is very heartbreaking to watch a decent marriage crumble and two people start to grow apart and go their separate ways. If you don’t really want this to happen to you then you need to pull your act together and help save a marriage.
The first step to take is to take a step back and catch your breath, taking a break from the problem. You can easily get overly excited and not be able to think clearly. Take some time to cool down and you will have a clearer mind to plan what to do. It is just like being a kid in school when you were told to count to 10 and cool off. Get your temper under control first.
If something is said by your “nearly ex” that makes you mad, simply take some time to cool off before responding off the top of your mind. Let your anger escape you and get control of your thinking. Once you can let go of the anger you can communicate better and take the next step to help save your marriage.
When you have conquered anger than you need to look at what is truly happening. In doing this make sure you look at things from different perspectives. Take a look at the big picture. Things may look bleak from where you are standing but when you step back and look at the whole situation from a new angle it may not look as bad. There could actually be a simple solution to help save your marriage. After looking at it from an outsider’s perspective or from the perspective of the one you love you may better discover how the marriage got out of control and a better way to help save marriage.
Go ahead and laugh at situations that seem to be funny. You may actually find some humor at how some little things got blown out of proportion. In many situations in life you will look back and laugh. You might as well laugh at what you can with your marriage and don’t take yourself completely serious all the time. Not to make light of a sad situation, but many rough periods in life will look comical once you look back at them. Little things sometimes do seem to snowball out of control and it is hard to stop that from happening. But that doesn’t mean you won’t find humor in the little things that seemed so silly, the way they got out of control.
Once you have adjusted your attitude and seen things from a new perspective than you can catch your breath and move on. Once you can see that the marriage problems you have been having can be broken down into smaller manageable fragments you will understand that it isn’t as bad as it seemed and there is help to save your marriage. Now you can get things back on track.
What remains now is to find a way to improve the situation. If you were the one who got angry easily in the marriage or are responsible for the little things that get blown out of proportion than you should change the things you do. Once you improve the way situations are handled than things will generally fall into place and this will help save your marriage. You and your spouse deserve to give it a try so the two of you can stay together.
Mark D. Jordan is a writer and researcher from Pennsylvania. Even more ways to save marriage can be found at Getting Ex Back or Save My Marriage [http://www.squidoo.com/savemy-marriage]