Most people are aware of the stereotype that all mother-in-laws are horrible to deal with. Historically, these women have given the new women in their sons’ lives a lot of trouble. If you were a fan of the show “Bewitched”, then imagine a mother-in-law treating her new daughter like Samantha’s mother treated her son-in-law on the show. Fortunately, few marriages receive this much mother-in-law interference, but the problem can still arise. When it does, you need to know what you’re looking at and come up with ways to diffuse a potentially-difficult situation.
You’ll find that mothers are quite protective of their sons, so mother-in-laws can be a hassle to deal with. Some of them even treat their daughter-in-laws like they don’t even exist. It may be that she’s just being nervous around this new person in her life and her own new role in her son’s life, and if your husband is paying more attention to her than to you, it might just be his years of caring about his mother’s feelings that are coming into play. Give him, and her, the benefit of the doubt. There has always been a relationship between the two of them, and there always will be, and most men just plain aren’t good at finding themselves caught between two women.
It’s very rare indeed for mother-in-laws to accept their new daughters readily. Many of them are more likely to make you feel like an outsider and no part of the family at all. Just don’t allow yourself to get sucked into the game. It’s usually best that you give her time to come around. Don’t try to rush developing a bond. You should let the relationship build naturally over time. If not, console yourself with the fact that she won’t always be in your lives and that eventually you will have your husband all to yourself.
Some mothers-in-laws seem to take it for granted that their sons are still going to come at their beck and call. This can really hurt you, but try not to let your feelings get the best of you. Everyone will need the right amount of time to adapt to all these changes. Your relationship will end up just fine as long as you don’t let some of her actions get to you. Realize that you aren’t unique in situations such as this. It’s a part of married life that lots of people have to go through. Doc No. 34Sdlhgsdl -sds