Keeping Your Marriage Alive While Being Involved in Youth Sports

Having children can lead to plenty of marital problems, something most are already aware of. After the baby is born, the couple will no longer have all of their time to spend with each other. After all, little ones have a lot of needs that they are unable to meet without assistance. Even smaller children who aren’t very active can quickly overwhelm a marriage. Many parents find that a wedge has been driven between them. You may be wondering how it’s possible to work things out in your marriage if your child is involved in sports.

The benefit of these sports activities is that it will give you and your spouse a common interest, thereby strengthening your bond. Make sure that this bonding time doesn’t turn into obsessive behavior though, which will surely cause additional problems. Make sure that your entire family knows what having one or more members in sports can mean. Talk about the chances for disrupted meal times, the commitment that everyone is going to have to make to accommodate frequent practices and games, and pain a realistic picture of what to expect. That way everyone will know going in what it’s going to be like.

You may not know exactly what it means at the time, but signing your child up for a sport can be a huge commitment. The leaders involved will always be looking for new people to help with driving, coaching, and many other tasks. If you plan to be a sidelines parent, you may well find yourself in the thick of things before you realize what’s happening. Is your spouse going to be content living around your time commitments? What about being able to take care of your childrens’ needs? Before you sign up for additional duties, make sure you know what’s involved.

There are also plenty of other things that you’ll need to keep in mind too. For example, one of my grandsons just recently finished up playing in his little league baseball season. The family thought they were done with the practices and games only to find out that the child had been selected for a state all-star team. Lo and behold, they now are committed to 5 p.m. practices every day for a month as well as games that can be held anywhere in the state. Since there are so many kids waiting to be on the team, he’ll be off of it if he misses a single practice. This all came up unexpectedly.

It’s also important that you leave enough time in your schedule to spend time with your other children and spouse. Your other children will likely end up feeling less loved if you spend all of your time with the family athlete. Just because they may not be athletes, you need to praise their other talents as well. You and your spouse need to find new ways to communicate and spend time with each other talking about your feelings about what is going on in your lives. Doc No.lsdhhsdlh-sdlkjhsgd

Kristie Brown writes on a variety of topics from health to technology. Check out her websites on Save my marriage and Free marriage advice

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