It is very sad to note that more and more marriages ended in divorce. Marriage is a start of a relationship, while divorce is an end. It is inevitable that some conflicts and bitterness may get arise after you have been married for a while. After going through some period of “unhappy” times in their marriages, some people started to consider whether they should get a divorce. It is at this time that you should make all efforts to save your marriage and stop divorce from every happening. Divorce has many implications, it costs you lots of money, not to mention the heart ache and the emotional upheaval for everyone, including your children, if you have any.
One reason why many people got married is because it gives them the emotional and sometimes financial support that they needed. In certain society, marriage provides you with the social status that you need as being single or being a a divorcee is considered abnormal.
It is not easy for a man or a woman to live alone whole life. If you get divorce, you may have to face economical, psychological and physical problems. Your family structure may collapsed totally after the divorce. You may also be deprived sexually.
Needless to say, divorce and separation affects the well being of the children. It may give rise to psychological problems which can affect the tender minds of children as they need both the parents equally. Because of the psychological problems that they are facing during this period, they tend to have more serious problems when they grow up. In fact their future may be ruined. If you seriously consider these impacts, you will realize that it is much better to save your marriage.
In order to make anything work you need to make some effort, this include your marriage. An effective way to do it is to improve yourself. Analyze the problems that are causing the unhappiness in your marriage and you would have ideas on what to do. Some of the common marriage problems include affairs, boredom, problem communication, addiction, abuse and lack of appreciation.
After you come up with the list of problems, you need to come up with possible solutions. A critical factor which causes most divorces is the lack of communication. Hence, you should give away your ego to maintain the healthy relationships and should take an initiative to resolve the problems in your married life.
You need to be able to assess yourself in your bid to save your marriage. This includes thinking about your mistakes. If you want to be a good partner, you should have a capacity to listen to your partner. You have to comprehend how he/she is feeling and what are his/her needs. In order to do that, you must learn how to communicate effectively. You should be able to keep calm and talk through the problem. When your partner is talking with you, you should ask the related questions and clarify the queries.
If you find it hard to solve the problems by yourselves, you may want to consider outside help to stop divorce. The cheapest, though may not be the best, way is to ask your friend and family for advice. If that didn’t work out, you can ask a marriage counselor for help.