Do you think about getting your ex back all the time? If so, there are probably a lot of questions on your mind. One of the first things women wonder when they are considering getting back together with their boyfriend is if it is going to work this time. It makes sense to be a little hesitant – especially if things ended badly the first time.
Before you take any more steps, you need to evaluate the relationship you used to have. If there was absolutely any abuse at all (verbal or physical), you need to take actions to end the relationship and all contact now. Even if you feel like the love is still there, it is not worth feeling the pain.
In addition to abuse, relationships can just be a bad match. The feelings of love might be there, or just the feeling of familiarity that draws people together. If you’re getting back together just because you are used to being together, or people expect you to be, that is not a good reason! You need to get back together because you are truly in love with one another, and because it is the best thing for both of you.
If you have determined that getting your ex back is the best course of action, it’s time to breathe a sigh of relief. The chances are very good that you were nervous while you were broken up. Thoughts of your own self-worth were probably very low, and you may have thought that you would never escape from the dark feelings.
It’s also time to let go of any guilt you feel over the breakup. If it was a specific action that was your fault, and that has been forgiven by him, it’s time to forgive yourself as well. The same holds true if it was he who did something wrong. If you have pledged to forgive him for whatever it was, it’s time to actually do so! Your relationship cannot grow if there are grudges and hurt feelings all around.
This does not mean that things will automatically be back to normal or that old issues will never creep up. It’s just important at this early stage in the game to take whatever steps you can take to prevent the problem from becoming so large that it causes you to break up all over again. Some couples will need to seek counseling, while others will be fine to relish in the fact that they are back together, and can let those old feelings go.
With that being said — congratulations! Getting your ex back is absolutely the best feeling in the entire world. If you are not to this point, but only dream of it, do whatever you can to read about and take the necessary steps to win him back into your arms for good.